Paris's real father revealed??



This was an actual 'news item' that showed up on my Comcast home page. The term 'real' in front of mother or father is guaranteed to rub me the wrong way. I was an adopted kid and am an adoptive parent....I come by my aversion naturally. I couldn't help myself... I pressed the play button to hear more. This guy, in his tee shirt, sitting on an easy chair complete with the afghan on the back,claims to be Paris's Godfather.

He tells the camera that Michael did ask him at one point to donate sperm and he did. He now believes that he could be Paris's 'real' father and would be willing to take a DNA test to prove it. He goes on to speak of his concern and love for Paris. I am sure his motives are pure and out of 'parental' love not motivated by money or fame...no way.

The thing that kills me about this is.....why do people think a sperm donor is the REAL father? Is that all it takes to be a 'real' parent, some DNA?? The parent that raises the child, is not somehow real? I think that when Paris spoke at her dad's memorial service, it was pretty clear that she knew who her real father was.

I had a similar experience but since I was an ordinary girl with ordinary parents it wasn't news worthy. My dad died after a long battle with cancer when I was 17. At the time, I worked in Almy's department store at the Hanover Mall. When I went back to work after his death, I was a wreck. I would dissolve into tears over the littlest thing...a customer wearing a watch like my dad's would make me fall to pieces. During one of these difficult moments, I went to the staff lounge to pull myself together. Two of my coworker walked in and did not see me. I overheard one girl say to the other 'I can't believe how upset Alison is...did you know he wasn't even her real father?' I was so shocked to hear that comment. Is that really how people see it? I responded to the girls (who were surprised to see me) in a way that I think made it clear who my 'real' father was. It was a cruel lessen to me in how many people view families formed by adoption. Losing my dad devastated me and there is not a day that I don't miss him.

It is ironic, a year and a half ago, I got a call that my biological father had passed away. Without going into too much detail, he lead a life no one would feel proud of. He meant nothing to me and yet the girls in the Almy's staff lounge would have considered him my 'real' father. But like Paris Jackson...I know who my 'real' dad was.