The Opposite of a Celebrity Crush

I was in kind of a negative mood this morning.  It's pouring out.  My team is 2-9 and I don't think it is too early to panic.  Nothing really wrong, just the rainy day blues.  I was doing my daily internet stuff, facebook, weather, news, when I saw that Tori Spelling and Dean McDermott are expecting their third child.  Then my mood went from negative to downright foul.  I don't care for Tori and Dean.  Then my mood got even worse when I realized that I was investing energy disliking people I don't even know! What a loser I am!

I looked closely at their photo and reminded myself that I had no reason not to like them  Sure, he always looks kind of smarmy but maybe he can't help that.  Sure, they left their original spouses for each other but they explained all that.  They are soul mates, apparently it was out of their hands.  What the heck is it about them, particularly him, that gets under my skin so?  It's like having the opposite of a celebrity crush.

Adding to the energy I was spending disliking strangers, I did a Google search.  I was reminded of why I felt so strongly.  When Dean told his wife that he was leaving her for Tori, she was stunned.  Not only did they have a young son but they had just adopted a baby daughter.  He told his wife, "I'm not leaving the kids, I'm leaving you."  Liar.  He has joint custody of his son but according to my source (Wikipedia) he 'opted not to move forward with the adoption of his daughter.'  His adopted child was optional to him.  Perhaps his ex-wife wanted it this way. If this is the case I am willing to guess he gave in without a fight. If she had insisted that he give up custody of his biological son, would that have been okay with him?

Going through the adoption process is a big deal.  Making the initial decision.  The home study.  The mountain of paperwork.  It doesn't just happen, he decided to do it.  He can't claim to have been blindsided.  He chose to bring a new member into his family.  He probably helped his wife decorate her nursery, pick out her name, prepare their son for a new sibling.  They brought her home, she was theirs.  Then he met Tori Spelling.  A woman he had just met was not optional for him but his daughter was.  Yuck.

As much as I don't think it is right for me to voice opinions regarding people I don't know, I am going to make an exception for Dean McDermott. I think he is a huge creep.